What if we approached driving a car like planning for birth?
I keep hearing that there is no point in preparing for birth because birth is unpredictable. While this is true, birth can be unpredictable, let's consider for a moment what would happen if we used this same logic with driving.
👶I have never seen anyone give birth before but I'm not going to watch any videos or learn anything about it. I'll just show up and hope it goes well.
🚘 I have never seen anyone drive a car before but I'm not going to watch any videos or learn anything about it. I'll just show up and hope it goes well.
👶I heard that birth can be traumatic. People have negative experiences all the time. So, I'm not going to learn anything about it because birth is too unpredictable. I'm just going to show up and hope it goes well.
🚘 I heard that people can get in really traumatic car accidents. People crash their cars all the time. With so many other people on the road, driving can be really unpredictable. I'm just going to show up and hope it goes well.
👶Making a birth plan can definitely prevent birth trauma and make my birth experience more positive. But it doesn't always work so I'm not going to bother.
🚘 Wearing a seatbelt can definitely prevent a traumatic injury after a crash and make that experience safer for me. But seatbelts don't always work so I'm not going to put them on.
This may sound harsh but whether you like it or not, you are in the driver's seat during your birth. It's dangerous for you to show up with a blindfold on and hope things go well. I completely understand that making so many decisions in birth can be overwhelming and you may not want to be in the driver's seat. In that case, you still need to make the decision to move to the passenger seat and let someone else drive.